Carving pumpkins? Talk to your kids while you’re at it.In today’s culture when almost ALL of our kids have seen at least some of the episodes of the series Thirteen Reasons Why, we need to talk about self image, depression, suicide, bullying, and social media. Their ideas and opinions are coming from somewhere. Why not us? Since our family is so busy, I try to find teachable moments in our everyday[…]

Disappointment always hurts. And it’s unavoidable in this world. Whether it’s blowing an audition, failing a spelling test, or not being invited to a friend’s birthday party, at some point in your child’s life, she’s going to be disappointed. Our kids need to be taught how to respond. Here are some of the not-so-good responses I’ve either tried or witnessed: Not-so-good response 1: Say “Toughen up!” and ignore the pain. This response will come back[…]

As the years passed on for me in the competitive world, the trophies accumulated. When you have been gathering awards for years, where do you put them? For me, we began setting them in my dance room, and they continued to multiply until ironically, there wasn’t a whole bunch of space left to dance. I left behind my room full of collected trophies when I moved to LA. I didn’t need[…]

Private college tuition. Gulp.Times two this year. Double gulp.Medical bills from a kiddo’s recent hospitalization, labs, tests, and follow-ups.Air conditioning that doesn’t work (in TEXAS!).Recent home renovation that overshot the budget.1968 plumbing.A car way past 200,000 miles, ready to give up at any time.Competitive dance.Ouch!When we look at our family’s budget, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. We are creatively looking at ways to cut expenses and decide where to spend[…]

Overcommitment leads to underwhelming results.Between high school and traveling as an assistant or rehearsing at my studio, I had zero time in the week to do anything else. I was lucky if I made it to a Friday night football game or a sleepover. I desperately wanted to run track, but my Dance Mom, Vicki, made me choose. She knew the demands of both dance and track, and taught me[…]

Summer naturally pushes the re-set button for young dancers. The competition and recital seasons have finished, and the next season seems a long way off. Now what? I sat down with Dance Mom Devo contributor and professional dancer, Meghan Way Stinson to get the inside scoop on how dancers should be spending their summer months.Should we take time off? Do we need to try summer intensives?“Take a break for a[…]

Dance Mom Devo welcomes Meghan Way Stinson, professional dancer, international dance teacher, choreographer, Dupree convention faculty member, competition judge, dance company member, and co-director to our writing team. Meghan will be giving us her perspective on many different issues in the dance world. Feel free to ask her questions in the comments section. To see Meghan’s fabulous extensive bio, click here. Gift cards and bath salts and Snickers OH MY! The[…]

Here it comes again. That unexpected gut punch of parenting a high school senior in the spring. Last show choir performance, last choir concert, last banquet, last prom, graduation… I’m so ready for her to spread her wings, and she’s so ready to fly. But, then again, I am devastated to know she is about to take off without me. She can’t wait to leave one minute, but then wants[…]

After an intense day at a dance competition, Rich and I needed toothpicks to prop our eyes open for Bethany’s solo awards at 11:15 p.m. We settled into our “wake me when it’s over” slump in our seats, half listening for the title of her solo, Bluebird, so we could whoop and try to remember which medal the judges decided for her. (This weekend it would be High Gold, Platinum,[…]